In the world of pregnant women, needs can be many. But the choices are many too-one of the most important being how to choose your caregiver. To generalize, choosing an OB is a lot less fraught with choices than perhaps picking a midwife is. But the ideal midwife-client relationship should be the choosing of not only the client, but the midwife too. That means that a midwife should make clear her philosophy so she hopefully attracts the “right” clients for her. And the client should really think about what she wants in a midwife and what is important to her in her prenatal care.
If Indie Mamas are free-thinking and independent (and so they are), there are many ways to have a baby. Unassisted, or “free birth” is one way and I have absolutely no problem with that. In fact, my next baby may very well happen that way. But because homebirth is my thing, both personally and professionally, here goes….
Honestly, I think the act of having your baby at home just really isn’t that genius. I mean, come on, women have been having babies for millions of years and the whole hospital routine is relatively new. So, there really isn’t anything out of the ordinary in that context.
Group Beta Streptococcus (GBS) testing in pregnant women is pretty standard nowadays. Like a lot of routine testing, many women don’t even know why they are being tested or what exactly they are being tested for. Most women don’t realize that each and every test is also a choice. You don’t absolutely have to consent to test for GBS.
The group beta strep bacteria lives in the gut of many healthy people. It is not an STD. The bacteria, when “normally” colonized is not a problem, and there are plenty of people walking around with it that have no symptoms and never feel the worse for it.
I want to know why more women don’t choose homebirth.
I don’t know many women outside of my little circle that do choose homebirth. Still, these women are highly educated women who seem aware of their options, and many have even elected to have natural births. So what is keeping them from wanting what I consider the “optimum” birth experience?
I love being pregnant, but I have this almost dread about postpartum. It used to seem like a bad word to me, being forced out into the world as a “normal” (non-pregnant) person again, with leaking breasts and even more responsibility than before.
Third time’s a charm, I guess, because I am loving this post-pregnancy time right now. For me, it was realizing I need to view it differently, and use my resources (both past experience and all the new things I am learning now) to really turn things around and find a way to love this time.
My “priorities before baby” list has shrunk, and I am pretty much out of things that really needed to be done. However, I am still pregnant, and could very well remain pregnant for the next week or more. So, here’s a partial list of all the crazy things I have running through my head right now (and please note, that as a midwifery apprentice, these are not necessarily the norm.)
Sleeping and eating are both big deals in a pregnant woman’s life.
The body needs food, and rest in great quantities so that it can grow a healthy baby and placenta. But although sleeping and eating are vital, they can also be a real challenge to a nauseous, unable-to-sleep woman who may even have heartburn (what fun!) or indigestion.
Pretty ironic, if you think about it. Luckily, there are things you can try if you are experiencing any sleeping or eating uncomfortableness, and all come without a prescription. Nausea and insomnia be gone!
Do you know the truth about birth in this country?
If you were asked where the US ranks in terms of infant mortality, what would your guess be?
I have a feeling most people would assume that with our doctors and our technology that our babies have the best chance of survival in the first month. Don’t you just assume that the US would be one of the safest places to be born? Other countries, like Canada and Sweden don’t have nearly as many baby specialists or as easy access to neonatal units as we do. But still they outrank us!
I have to admit, I didn’t always think of birth as beautiful.
There are no pictures or video clips that captured my first labor or my daughter entering this world. Honestly, I didn’t know what to expect. Not to mention all the information out there about what’s “ugly” about birth-you know, bodily fluids and looking at the placenta, oh dear!
Maybe it’s the births I have had the privileged of attending, or my own impending third labor and birth. But there is very little about the whole process that I don’t see as beautiful now. It’s in the laboring woman the entire way through, even when she is at her “worst” because of the natural way she’ll choose to do everything, even talk or move.