You don’t have to buy into the fear, pressure and chaos that surround MOST women after the baby is born. In fact, as you are holding your baby, you have all the power in the world to complete the process.
To me (both personally and professionally), there is unbridled power as a woman orchestrates the birth of her placenta. SHE says…”Here it is!” and brings it up from the water herself. Or SHE directs her partner to hold the baby as she instinctively squats and guides it out on her own. If you’ve ever “handed off” this responsibility to someone else, or if you pictured birth being over after the birth of the baby….OR if you are scared of postpartum bleeding, here are 5 reasons why you need to OWN the placenta birth (too).
You need to OWN the birth of your placenta because:
1. Your body depends on you. There is a focus and Presence about women that do this. These sorts of women are also in new baby bliss, like anyone else, but they don’t “check out”. They know there is one more important job to do and because they know that, there is less interference from someone else to make it happen. They don’t necessarily do it to be cool (although it IS super cool to own your placenta birth!) but because they know it is an integral, important part to the birth process. The hormonal flow of birth does NOT stop with the birth of the baby, but ebbs and flows and weaves over the course of days and weeks. For best results, as much of the pregnancy and birth process should occur in an unhindered, instinctual manner.
2. The fear that hangs in many a birthing room after the baby should vanish, or at least be a lot less, if you exhibit this confidence. As a midwifery student, every birth I attended was fraught with palpable tension after the birth of the baby and before birth of the placenta. A frenetic energy, watching for blood loss, watching the cord. To most midwives, it’s a “how quickly can we get the placenta out” attitude that doesn’t come without creating disturbance that, ironically, may set you up to bleed unnecessarily. Your confidence will give THEM confidence. There is nothing quite like seeing a woman birth her placenta into a bowl without suggestion or direction, and then just proceeding on to bed with her baby. Kinda like….just another day’s work! (Not to mention you may teach your midwife a thing or two by doing this!)
3. There are purely physical advantages : Less likely to bleed too much, leave part of the placenta or amniotic sac inside, or invert your uterus. Reasoning is simple. Fear creates a reduction in oxytocin, which is responsible for contracting the uterus. Also, it’s basic textbook knowledge that MOST hemorrhages are caused by someone “meddling” or fiddling with your uterus in giddy anticipation of seeing the placenta come out. You will avoid being poked, prodded and manhandled and birth it more quickly than someone can coax it out of you. Follow your body’s clues, just like you did with the baby. And in the event of an issue, you will be the first to know. Keep everyone else’s hands out and away avoids germs and bacteria entering your body as well. Finally, drugs like Pitocin have some pretty serious side effects, despite that they are often used at home. You REALLY don’t want that unnecessarily, and the unfortunate truth is that many midwives have no idea how to diagnose a hemorrhage or not! If you have the where-with-all to birth your placenta, there is a really slim chance you will be messed with unnecessarily.
4. Call me sentimental, but why no love for the placenta? Did it not feed your baby and give life to the very, very end? This miraculous organ is nothing short of amazing, and mind-blowing. And frankly, the lack of respect for it and the birth of it (which we very callously call “Third stage”) is really disrespectful. You don’t want anyone (hopefully) to touch your baby after birth before you do, right? WHAT IF the placenta is no different, and somehow we are messing with concrete physiology (and spiritual connection, too) by handing off the “delivery” like it just doesn’t matter. Or because we are afraid of it. And what’s all the hoopla over recognizing it’s inherent value AFTER birth (a la encapsulation or ingestion) but not AT birth? I realize not everyone loves placentas as much as I do, but after the birth of my 4th (who was transported minutes after he was born) I came to a new place with loving the placenta. I did not get the lotus birth I had wanted, yet I had no less appreciation for what this “twin” to my baby had provided. It wasn’t until two days after he was born that I could look at it. I thought it would make me sad (for the lotus birth that wasn’t, as well as his transfer) but I was wrong. I cried tears of joy, handling it and whispering THANK YOU. Non-coincidentally, this was also my first birth where I “owned” the birth of baby AND placenta. It had a profound impact on me and the way I see this part of the process. In the simplest terms, the placenta IS life.
5. Birthing your own placenta on your own terms in your own power with grace and confidence is not as hard as it sounds. It’s just not very common these days. But like any mammal, we know how to do it. And if we think we don’t, we can practice visualizing it and preparing our “team” with our intentions. Birthing your placenta with power will inspire SO MUCH TRUST in the entire process! We believe women can birth babies and we learn and trust the factors that make it a usual and healthy event. Why stop trusting once the baby comes out? That same trust will birth the placenta; and even better, that same knowing and confidence will boost you into mothering with perhaps more of both than you even knew you had.